I want to bring to your attention an obstacle almost every guy slogging through the single scene trenches is forced to deal with - whether they’re aware of it or not.

It’s called the “Friend Factor”

If you’ve ever gone out specifically to pick up a chick, you’ll know that women like to travel in PACKS.

Seriously. It’s very rare to see an attractive woman out on the town by herself. They are either with friends, or on their way to meet up with friends.

And if you aren’t privy to the right way to approach a woman when she’s with her friends, succeeding with her is an uphill battle. Not to mention, down right frightening.

Imagine this scenario…

You’re in a bar and you see an attractive woman that you want to meet. But to your dismay, she is smack-dab in the middle of a small crowd of people! To make it worse, she’s talking, laughing, teasing, and joking around with these people. They are her friends.

So you stand around, waiting, hoping, to catch her when she goes to the bathroom, or out to grab a smoke, or something where you don’t have to deal with a large group of people.

This is where most men mess up! The idea of approaching a girl who’s in the midst of an entire GROUP of people is enough to scare almost any guy.

In fact, most men have NO CLUE how to meet women when they are with their friends!

Most men try to wait it out, lurking around to jump in when her friends aren’t around.

The big issue here lies in the inevitable fact that her friends WILL eventually come for her. And odds are, they will drag her off somewhere. You are then back to square one!

The other tactic most guys take is to approach the woman directly, and completely IGNORE her friends! This is just as bad since the friends will eventually try and get rid of you because they just see you as a nuisance!

But - if you approach a group the right way, and are able to actually become PART of the group, you’ll never have to worry about her friends dragging the object of your desire away from you!

Whether a girl is with one friend or twenty, if you aren’t part of her social circle her friends will do everything in their power to protect her from you.

The trick to meeting women in bars and night clubs is to meet the women you’re attracted to THROUGH their friends.

This means you meet the friends first, get to know them, demonstrate you aren’t some creep, and then once you’re accepted by the group, only then do you start talking to the girl you like.

And surprisingly, this isn’t as hard as you think. There are secrets to penetrating a woman’s social circle in under a minute.

One of my favorite ways to do this is to engage the whole group in some type of conversation. The easiest way to do this is to ask the group their opinion on something.

Remember: You’re not asking one or two of the girls in the group - you are asking the WHOLE group.

If you do this right you’ll engage everyone in conversation, ensuring in you becoming part of their social circle. And once that happens, its easy a cake to “borrow” their friend so you can have a little one on one time with the girl you like.

See what is happening? You have their approval! They won’t want to stop you from doing this.

It takes some time, but once you master the techniques and guidelines mentioned above, you will be able to approach any group, and thus any woman, that you desire!

The following are beginner suggestions on researching online and offline dating:

- Paid web dating sites are a better bet. Better yet is a specialist one. You imagine you’re open to all offers. In fact, in the back of your mind, you have a very specific set of criteria. Bring them to the foreground. Do you like slim or plump, tall or short, blonde or brunette, college-educated or not, extrovert or introvert? It’s smart also to go for individuals who are of the same religion as you. You might think it’s not important now, but when her kinfolk start getting involved in your kid’s upbringing, it will matter a very great deal.

- Some women yearn for a man who is ‘macho’, authoritarian, even a little bit cruel. Emphasis on the little bit. You keep her attention by seeming to be complicated and unpredictable. You may act autocratic, dominating, even a little sadistic. Check her responses closely when you do. If she takes delight in submitting to you, a glint in her eye, a suddenly more positive response to you; you may be dealing with a woman who unfortunately has a masochistic motive to be ill-treated and commanded. If such behavior comes easily to you, it can be very efficacious with pleasing such a woman. One caveat; masochists like their pain on THEIR terms in the end. You’ll need to take your cue from her, not just shove her about willy-nilly. Moderation is key here.

- Analyze your reactions to women objectively. You’ll find that a favourite type emerges: slim or rounded, dark or blonde, extravert or introverted. There’s a pop or film star that you can’t help but gawk at while she’s on the screen. There’s a type that causes your head to pivot when you’re walking down the street. That’s the type you should go for; the one that excites a machine-like, favourable response. You’ll find it easier to speak to this kind of girl. If you have found your true love she’ll feel the same way about you. You have genes that’ll help her make a better baby; she does the same for you.

- When you first make eye contact, smile. If she smiles back, you’re in. Then go up, and say hello. After that, take your cue from her. She likes you, so you don’t have to mouth off. You can say the most hackneyed things; it’s your appearance, and the sound of your voice, that’re doing most of the work. If you’re uneasy, just tell yourself: “plenty more fishies in the sea if I mess this up”. Which is true!

- Most important: You must not embarrass your escort publicly. Women hate to be the centre of attention for the wrong reasons. If you’re acting like a little boy or an unpleasant brute you’re using up your credit every second that ticks by.

- Conspicuous consumption suggests that you are not mean with your cash. Prove this by spending some on her, or giving her some! Don’t be a sap, however; if the interpersonal chemistry ain’t there, on BOTH sides, move on. You can’t badger or buy a woman into loving you, ‘though they may be reluctant to scorn a ’sugar daddy’ entirely. When true love strikes, you’ll both know it; accept no alternative!

- Social skills: A man should ideally be gregarious, with a clique of jolly friends. He ought be able to hold knowledgeable discussions on an extensive variety of subjects. A man should be observant. He should notice when a woman has altered her appearance. He should acknowledge when she is unhappy. When required he should not stay silent, but offer compliments or sympathy. He should, however, also be aware that no knight ever won a fair lady by being meek and mild. You’re not required to put up with narcissistic behaviour. Don’t take women’s ‘crises’ too seriously. They certainly don’t. One day all is lost, the next day all is well. A strong man holds it all in. A strong woman (or a nutcase!) explodes. Regularly.

- You’ll have a great deal more self-confidence if you’ve got some cash in the bank, an apartment and a motorcar of your own; these ought to be a priority. You should also dress well. Dressing well means your appearance exudes power: you’re in command of your destiny. Women like to be taken care of; project that you can do that, and you’re half-way home. Your personal circumstances also affect how you behave: a man who is actually well-to-do will project that unconsciously, and be more successful with women.

I hope these few beginner suggestions will assist you in finding a nice girl via online and offline dating.